Why “What Am I Doing Wrong?” Isn’t a Helpful Question (What To Think Instead)

When things don’t work out as we wish, it’s natural to ask, “what am I doing wrong?”

For most of my life as a teen and through adulthood, that was the question that first occurred to me any time I didn’t see the results I was hoping for in my life.  If I wasn’t promoted at work, or if my friends were all dating great guys while I was sitting at home eating chocolate on Saturday nights, or if I couldn’t afford the dream home I wanted when everyone else I knew was already selling their first homes–I’d wonder what I missed that everyone else seemed to know.

I just assumed it was some inherent flaw in me. 

The same is true with candida.

When I first was told I had candida overgrowth, all I could think was, “why me?” and “what did I do wrong?” In a family of women who’d all spent their lives eating unhealthy, junk-food diets, I was the only one who ended up with candida overgrowth.

Later, when I was following the diet and found myself slipping off it, I again wondered what I had done to trigger the slip up, how I had somehow been responsible for my return to highly sugary foods and other processed, junk food that (of course) only made matters worse.

But this kind of self-blame doesn’t help in any way.

So, when you feel as if you’ve slipped off the diet and are tempted to ask “what did I do wrong,” I’d like you to consider these other perspectives instead.

Question: How do you deal with slip-ups? Have you ever wondered whether you are somehow responsible?  

Highlights:

• Ricki’s dating history and how it related to her candida overgrowth
• What changed the cycle of self-recrimination
• Why wondering “what’s wrong” is an unhelpful focus, especially with candida
• Why using others’ success as a gauge isn’t helpful
• The major misconception about what we need to do to succeed on the diet
• The first step to learn how to stick with it for the long term
• The role of Western culture in our crisis of candida overgrowth

Resources:

• Get on the RECLAIM program info list
• Free ebook: 15 Sweet Favorites, Candida-Free 
• Facebook group: Food Restrictions Made Easy (mention that you learned about it here!)
• Candida Kick-Start program
• The Sweet Life Club (ongoing support for sugar-free, gluten-free, egg-free, dairy-free living)
• Living Candida-Free (Book)
• Living Candida Free (free Facebook group)
• Anti-Candida Digital Cookbooks
• Candida Diet Individual Coaching
• Subscribe to my YouTube channel
• Video: Why “What Am I Doing Wrong?” Isn’t Helpful

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